What's a woman gotta do to have everything??

I am currently writing an article for a Women's magazine, an off the chart in your face feminist response to pop culture... cross your fingers they take the pitch and buy it.  While writing this article, I've done a lot of research about 1st, 2nd, and 3rd wave feminism.
We have fought and continue to fight the good fight, however it seems that the 3rd wave is drowning in the ocean of what should be the 4th.  Technology has replaced relationships, social media and media-media has pitted the unwitting younger progeny against one another vying for the eye of the GQ guy.  Telling the younger women of today the story of yesteryear... 
I can't help but wonder, are we going backwards?  Can't a woman of today have it all?  The career, the house/apt/loft/cottage, the dog, the cats, the man or woman and not have to go back to the defined roles of my grandparents in 1913?
I have found that a man doesn't care what I think, and if I answer the million dollar question the wrong way I am cast into the sea of "man hating fem-nazi".  I was having a lovely phone-ship with a guy that seemed to have it all, a business in a profession he loved, a good sense of humor, sarcasm, and the sophistication of obscure references.  Then one Sunday, sitting in my Jeep waiting on my mother to pick up some of my art to take to a shop in another town, I was killing time talking to "Mr. Evolved".  He asked me a question that led to feminism and the ERA and he said it was just semantics and we were all covered and I told him that was propaganda made to lull people into complacency that when it says man in the Constitution it means man... he then asked the $4million dollar question.  If I had the chance to sit down and talk to 2 people any people who would it be.  I prefaced my answer with a too many to say, but at this time in my life it would be Alice Paul and Dorothy Parker.  That was a month ago.
Don't kid yourself, we ain't come a long way baby.